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Omg!!! What like 2 months since I blogged, someone /whap me!… Well here we go!
Dear Mama Flo,
I been dating this guy in game for about 9 months. He suddenly disappeared. I was so worried at first, was so unlike him. Thought things like he was hurt and had no way to let me know to maybe he couldn’t pay his internet bill.
Turns out, he made an alt and been playing on it. When I found out I was so hurt, there was no way he would do that! Without a word he made another AV and been playing on it, even had his rl picture on the new AV’s profile. He has me on Ignore, leaving me to wonder what I do so wrong. I so tears me up that he couldn’t even say good bye to me.
How do I get over this?
Needs Closure
Dear Needs Closure,
That is so mean in so many levels. People deserve a fuck off at least and shows that your ex doesn’t even have the balls to do that. Consider yourself lucky that you only wasted 9 months of your life on the ass. I do think lot of people on SL do use people as toilet paper and when done with them just flush them down the toilet when done wiping their ass with them. It is the mentality that I don’t know them in RL so it is ok to use them and toss. Real people behind real AV’s, with real feelings. I don’t care what people say about being just a game. Those normally the ones that use a lot of paper and clog toilets often.
So you need to purge. Anything that has to do with him. Return his stuff, ban him, delete anything that has his name or image. Put his ass on ignore and delete from friends so you don’t have to watch him come on line if he ever has the balls to get on old toon. All those pics of him… rl and sl delete or put in a box so he doesn’t pop up when looking for another pic you didn’t name either. Right now the pain is strong you need time to heal and having things around that remind you… will just be more knives in your heart each time reminded. You know write a good bye letter to him for some closure. If you give it to him or not, it might be some of what is running around in your head to let loose and free you of it.
Hopes to help,
Flo
Hey Kiddies… I haven’t forgot about you! Been wearing my apron to bare threads with work, so lets get back to some advice giving 
Dear Mama Flo,
I have been friends with this guy for a few months now. He is a great guy I love talking to him and I have actually developed a major crush on him. He is like my best bud. Only problem, he has a girl in SL. They fight everyday and I listen to all the drama. I try to help the best I can without my crush getting in the way. It is getting harder and harder to do. I want to tell him that I like him and would like to get closer in our relationship but I don’t want to loose as a friend either, I am tried also of seeing this girl treat him like shit.
Help me mama FLO!
Well tell him you care about him and don’t want to see him go this. Tell him you are there for him and you will support him either way Tell him in your honest opinion you think her and him should just split. Point it out every time she is a bitch to him. And, save the conversation of your feelings for him for another time. So he doesn’t think you are undermining his relationship for selfish purposes. So basically he won’t know that is what you are doing the whole time. Let him think it was his idea.
If he still hasn’t dumped her yet, then some time when you having a nice quiet time together let him know what you feel, and that you would like to treat him better. Might take a bit of scheming. Having a new option might lead him out of the old thing he is used to too.
Mama Flo
Dear Mama Flo,
A former friend and I had a nasty falling out (one of many), this final one ending with her saying “don’t talk to me anymore!” I was (and still am) only too happy to oblige.
But lately there’s been someone in our sim who reminds me a lot of this former friend. There are just too many coincidences for me NOT to be suspicious. I think she may be an alt, and a few of my other friends think so too.
Do I confront this new person? (I asked her early on when we met if she was an alt and she said “no”) Do I just take her at face value? How can I be sure she’s not trying to make some kind of trap and wanting to hurt me yet again?
Thanks for reading, keep up the good work.
–Twice Shy
Dear Twice Shy
You know there is people in Second Life that just don’t have a real life and need to cause a little drama to make themselves feel better. The person you met very well might be who you think they are or just remind them of them. Thinks the best advice I could give is, trust your gut. You get “bad vibes” from them, stay away. If it is them or not.
There is many out there we just get a bad feeling about, and effect you in a certain way cause your gut tells you something is wrong. To save you headaches just don’t deal with them. Can be polite and smile and say hello but don’t let it get pass that. They IM you, just tell them sorry you are real busy right now. If it is them, they will get bored with the head games and give up and if it isn’t might of saved yourself some future drama. Just leave trash where it belongs… at the curb.
Mama Flo
Dear Mama Flo,
My guy has this habit of typing “!!!” at the end of every sentence, can be about anything and it is always !!! I can’t take it anymore!!! I don’t want to hurt his feelings and I have hinted at it a few times to stop. I love him but the !!! is like nails on a chaulk board to me now. How do I get him to stop without ruining our relationship?
!!!
Dear !!!
Yeah I could see where that would get totally annoying. “Lets go to that new store!!!” ” You take the pink ball!!!” would be like shouting all the time. Who wants yelled at all the time. But with men, hints don’t work. You need to ask him why he does it and tell him after how you feel about it. It is probilly some habit he picked up in some other game or chat program and he thought it was cute. Someone might even told him that and lied, you know how girls do that to get a guy, oh honey it so big kind of thing and you are left cleaning up the mess from someone else.
If he doesn’t stop after you told out flat how you feel about it, you might have to train him with some reinforcement. Like every time he types !!! just reply with !!!. When he asks what your doing after couple times explain that every time he does it that is his reply. Will be like teaching an old dog by pounding it into his head with an old bone.
Mama Flo
In from Ask Mama Flo’s Headquarters.
Dear Mamam Flo,
this guy I really like in sl is always on after I go to sleep so I never have time to just hang out with him, and I have no idea what to do. This only started a week or so ago and I’m exhausted from waiting up for him all night. please help!
thanks,
Tired
Dear Tired
Time zones are a big pain in the butt, we all miss some of our favorite people because they live on the other side of the world. But, I figure not worth waiting up for people unless you like taking naps. You need to set times with him when to be on. Where both of you can be there and not much strain on your sleep schedule. But, also need to know if it really worth you messing up your life to suit just one guy. Find out if he really likes you also. Tell him that waiting for him really messing with your sleep and your tired all the time. You two can plan these meeting times like trying going to bed earlier too and waking up really early.
You don’t want to disturb your rl to much for someone on a game you just met even though it is fun and exciting to do new things in SL. If he can’t work with you on meeting up at times best for both of you there is tons of men in your own time zone.
Signed Mama Flo
Hey all, I have been busy going to catch up I swear!
Dear Mama Flo,
Me and my rl husband both play Second Life and most nights I go to bed
early than him. He says he is up later because he is building. But I never see anything he makes. I come to believe that he might be doing things we agreed not too. Is there anything I can do?
Loves Husband
Dear Loves Husband,
The main thing you can do, is talk with him. Ask to see what he has created. Tell him about your suspicions that he might be virtually cheating on you going against your wishes.
But, if you don’t want the confrontation that will most likely happen. You can try staying up as late as him and watch what he does. Or, check his log files on his machine when he is at work. Read his private ims from others. If he doesn’t have logging on in his preferences. Log on as yourself on his machine and turn it on. Will turn it on for all accounts on his system. So do the upfront asking or play spy. Most important thing is finding out because not having trust there will make you go insane.
Mama Flo
Busy weekend for me, no time to answer questions … but here is one coming in from the Ask Mama Flo Headquarters.
“Dear Mama Flo,
I have this issue with my partner, sometimes he crashes and doesn’t come back. I am left waiting for him for hours worried something might of happened or I made him mad some how. I have told him a couple times how this bugs me, but he doesn’t listen. What do you suggest?
Thanks,
Kept Waiting”
Dear Kept Waiting,
I am very familiar with this issue and it takes a bit of nagging from you and your friends to pound it into your man’s thick head sometimes. They (men) honestly don’t see nothing wrong if they crash and get side tracked watching TV or hunger pains. You have to shame them to come back, even to say.. “hey i am taking off for a while” It will be an on going process but, they just need to learn proper SL etiquette.
It is also really disrespectful to you too. Show their lack of care. So tell them if they give a hoot about you then they need to let you know. Take a hammer and pound it into their head. Might want some easy rl way like messengers contact too then they don’t have to log into Second Life to let you know.
Signed,
Mama Flo
If you gonna to call someone a bitch. Make sure they are not the owner of the land you are on or a friend of the owner. You might not be coming back to that land if you do.
Flo
Dear Mama Flo,
Do aliens really exist in SL? I have this fantasy involving an alien, a spatula, 4 quarts of vegetable oil, and a giant pool slide. How do you go
about meeting an alien in SL? Signed,
Lost in Space
Dear Lost in Space,
Yep there is aliens roaming around SL. They might even like being invited to a pool party and BBQ. You can probably find some alien’s at Greenies wondering around and I also saw a down space ship at Booperfunk. You never know, anyone could be an alien at anytime. So take a stroll around SL and keep your eyes open and your pool party can happen.
Just make sure that you make sure their diets can handle all that oil first and if your party gets real good make sure to have protection because you don’t want to get alien kooties.
Singed Mama Flo
Another question in from the Ask Mama Flo Headquarters, keep the questions coming, it keeps me going.
Dear Mama Flo,
I have a serious problem. I have a thing for tying up Japanese girls. I tie them right side up, upside down, backwards, it doesn’t matter, as long as they are tied up. My problem is that once I have them tied up, I don’t know what to do with them. My whipping post didn’t come with instructions. Do you have any suggestions??
Signed, Snake Head
Dear Snake Head,
Well as a friend once told me, “Cum in their face, go have a drink, and come back later”.
Thinks your issue though is you are playing with girls when you should be playing with women. A woman will tell her what she wants before hand and not leave you blind in the dark trying to grab the knob. If you only want to tie them up is one thing if you want to explore more, I suggest getting into SL groups with members of the same interests. I am sure you can find a learning group for BDSM is SL.. maybe be the tied up one for a bit so you know what both sides are.
Signed Flo
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